This week, I went to have my hair highlighted again. I decided early on in the Make Anita Pretty process that I would shop around and try to find the best person to color my hair. I'll still the the Ouidad process done at a local salon, but I'd like to find a cheap colorist to color my hair. When I was in grad school, I had a woman who rented a booth at a local salon who charged me between $40 and $60 to cut and color my hair. I'm paying twice as much now (at least!) and the results have just never been as good as her.
So in February, I went to someone who owned her own shop to have some highlights put in. She just added some in and it looked nice. However, she just used straigh bleach (not clorox, but certainly not a color) and I thought it was too light for my hair.
So I went to someone else this week. I told him I thought the straight bleach look was too much for my dark hair. I pointed to a curl and said that's the color I want throughout my hair. He either 1) only heard that I thought the highlights were too light or 2) uses one particular procedure (a toner) which colors over the highlights and decided that's what he had to do.
In any case, he removed every and all highlights out of my hair and my hair is back to dark brown. AND I HATED IT. I called him up when I got home and said, I really don't like this can you fix it. So I went back to him yesterday and supposedly added a few more highlights and the toner again. AND I HATE IT. Now instead of dark brown, my hair is medium dark brown. I cannot see any highlights anywhere in my hair. I've cried three times already about how ugly I look. And I can't afford to go somewhere else so soon to have it fixed again. (He didn't charge me the second time for anything except the product, but I felt so guilty I gave him two tips for both colorings).
I cannot stress to you enough about how much I hate the color of my hair right now. I look old. A lot older with this color hair than I did with the bleach I didn't even like. And I don't understand why when I went to him the second time he didn't use the absolute lightest highlights he could to add some light back into my hair?
I HATE MY HAIR. I LOOK UGLY.
And I'm going to be in a wedding in two weeks. And I'm going to Los Angeles two weeks after that. And everyone is going to think I look bad. And in LA, they are going to feel sorry for me.
I honestly don't know if I can take looking in the mirror for three more months and hating what I see. I feel like I'm too old to get this upset about my hair. Nonetheless, I am. And I hate the color of my hair right now.
This is fixable! You just need to find a good salon (have you checked citysearch?), and I promise they will make you look pretty again. It won't come cheap, but it sounds like it's worth it to like your hair again. They may want to do all over semi-permanent color (to mask the current color you don't like) and highlighting. Good luck!
ReplyDeleteThe sun will lighten it up so as soon as the sun comes out, work in the garden or whatever. It worked on mine.
ReplyDeleteYou don't look ugly to me, your my sister.
ReplyDeleteLook for a good colorist on yelp.com and if you want, I can give you a name of someone good in LA. Its fixable! Don's dispair!
ReplyDeleteHave you washed it yet? That may make a difference, but it's been so long since I colored my hair...
ReplyDeleteAfter two or three washes, you'll start to see a bit of the old highlights again. After five or six washes, you'll see definite highlights coming back. Colour does wash out gradually, even 'permanent' colour.
ReplyDeleteGoing too blond on the highlights ends up creating 'the Pamela Anderson effect'.....
Also, there's a nifty new-ish color-removing product out, available in most drugstores these days, called "Oops". Might at least see what the package says to decide if that would help you. (and where the heck was *that* product when I went through my horrible "can't be seen in public for weeks" "too dark, too dark!" Elvira stage?!) I also found that many many washings (like five or six shampoos per shower using a "strong" color-unfriendly shampoo such as Prell) helped tame the disaster. But gah, I feel for you, Anita. Not happy with your hair = not happy!!
ReplyDeletemajor major colour unfriendly shampoo = Head 'n Shoulders.
ReplyDeleteyup.