Sometimes, you POAS. Sometimes you just need a POA---a plan of attack.
We're off the my OB/Gynie today to figure out what we can do to try to have another baby. It's been 4 months since miscarriage #2 and we're not pregnant again. (We're in the midst of Month 5, so who knows). This is the longest we've gone without getting pregnant; before now, we've gotten pregnant every 2 or 3 months of trying.
So, I just want to go to the doc and find out what he thinks our options are. And if we're not all that into those, then we'll go to the infertility clinic and see what they think our options are.
At my age, IVF is really not all that promising, despite when it happens to 47 year olds, who then decide they don't want children. And it's not cheap. Adoption is not cheap either, but you're guaranteed a child by the end of that process. (Unless, you've adopted from a 47 year old who then changes her mind.)
So there you go. We'll see what the doc says. I hope I know enough to know if his advice is lame or not.
Keep us posted, Anita. Plans of action are a good thing. Sometimes they represent just a jumping off point for "what really happens". Good luck with your planning process!
ReplyDeleteI did IVF at 40 yrs; started with poor numbers, really bad egg quality (I had a light chemo before); with the max of hormone shots I barely produced two eggs; they still told me to go ahead, try to harvest those, try to get at least one fertilized, do the whole thing even though chances would be close to zero that I'd get pregnant. Allow yourself a try before you swing over to donor eggs or adoption - to prove yourself that there are no other options for you, that's what they suggested. Indeed, good advise: First try, desperately bad outlook... my adorable little girl turned two recently!!! That much for (your :)statistics!
ReplyDeleteI won't go through another round though (42 now), even though we'd love to have another baby. We feel that we do not wish to bring that (in my case to be expected) stress and sadness into our little, very happy family. But this, of course, is a very personal decision. Good luck with whatever you decide to do.
Anony--
ReplyDeleteI get it. I thought I'd jump right on the adoption band wagon, but I have to say that the idea of at least trying IVF appeals to me immensely.